Would you believe that my 4 year old daughter transformed my life style? It is still hard to believe but those 6 little sweet words struck me hard in my head.
“Dad you are never at home”
But before, I tell you my story, I want to let you in to why I am writing it in the first place. I keep hearing these stupid excuses all the time and it really frustrates me.
“It’s too late, my life is ruined”
“I won’t be able to succeed”
“My life is doomed”
“Oh you were lucky, I don’t have luck”
I keep telling my friends, colleagues and the people around me that “Nothing is Impossible in life”. Here is what I think and a firm believer of:
“If you have the will power to succeed, then you can achieve anything in life”
Ok let’s get to my story now.
The story goes back to 2002; this is when my transformation started. But I will go back a bit further to how I was and what happened next. It will make you understand why it was so important to change the life I was living.
In 1989, while I was working in my country Bangladesh for the French Electricity Company, I was offered to work at the head office in France.
I jumped on the opportunity and was enjoying the new life style in France. I had a nice pay, company accommodation and 4 return trips a year back to Bangladesh. What could someone ask for more!
Unfortunately, this happiness lasted only for 5 years until Dec 1994, when I was made redundant. The life had to continue, my wife joined me in France from Bangladesh in January 1995, and being unemployed, you can imagine how difficult it was to live a decent life.
I did not lose hope. I decided to take up the 1st job that came my way. In Aug 95, I finally managed to get a job as a barman in a big restaurant but the salary was minimum wage. But what the heck! At least I had money coming in.
After 3 months, I got a chance to become a waiter. This post was interesting as my salary was based on the percentage of Sales value and the extra was the tips you made. In some months it could amount to 30% – 40% of your basic salary. Money was good so was life.
We had our 1st daughter in October 1998. I was filled with joy and excitement. My daughter meant everything to me. Things started getting better for me. In 2000, we bought our 1st property, a 2 bedroom apartment. Before that we were living in a 1 bedroom apartment and now it was time to get to a bigger space for my daughter.
My job as a waiter continued in the restaurant. I was doing night shift. My day would start at 3pm and would end at 1am in the morning. I came back home at 2 am and slept till 9am in the morning. My day off was Monday and Tuesday.
Until now, I am sure you are saying when did my 4 year old daughter transform my life! Patience my friend, I am about to reveal to you right now!
It started in April 2002, my daughter was hardly 4 years old and started schooling as in France the children start pre-school at the age of 3.
So what happened?
Well, as I worked night shift and had holidays on Monday and Tuesday, I hardly saw my daughter. I was at home while she was at school.
Then one day, she looked into my eyes and asked the question “Dad, why are you never at home”. Tears ran down my eyes. I hugged her and said that I was sorry because I had to go to work. How could you make a 3 year old understand what work is?
Later, I started thinking. I said to myself
What am I doing?
What life am I leading that I can’t even give some time to my daughter?
What was the point of working and earning money if I can’t share the joy with my family?
Since that day, I became restless, deep in my thoughts, I was cursing myself. I need to change; I have to find a way to get back to a normal life.
The only way out of the restaurant life and odd working time was to rehabilitate myself. So I decided to take up further education. But if I go back to college then that means I won’t be able to work and that means no food for the family. So what do I do!
I kept researching for student scholarships for adults. After a month’s extensive search, I found the ideal course for me. But there was huge competition for the scholarship. “Heck, if you don’t try then you will not know if you will succeed”. Taking action and trying was more important than anything else.
So I took the entrance exam. Guess what! To my surprise, I was selected. Well, here is a start of a new life!
So for the next 1 year, I went through an intensive training course. The course and my salary for a year were fully subsidized by the scholarship. I worked hard. I was determined to succeed.
In May 2003, I achieved my Professional Qualification as an Accounting Technician and in September 2003, I was employed by the Practice where I did my 3 month internship.
Now, I enjoy my evenings and week-ends with my daughter and I see her growing up each day.
So what is the moral of this story?
I am a firm believer of these words “Where there is a will, there is a way”. If you really want to succeed in life then you have to ask for it. Nobody will give it to you in a silver plate. I was desperate to change my life and I have succeeded. Guess what my age was then. I was 37 when I took up my studies. So the age should not be a barrier or excuse.
I did not stop there. In 2006, at the age of 41, I moved to Ireland to get higher degree in Accounting and now I enjoy a better career achievement, respect and money.
There is no end to learning. In 2009, I took an interest in internet marketing. Well, the current economic conditions make you look for additional income and so did I.
I have built up a few websites around the passion I enjoy sharing with others “computers” and “cooking”. They are growing gradually. I am not yet an internet success but I am getting there with baby steps.
Success comes by sharing and I want to help as many people as I can through my stories and experience.
We all need a bit of guidance, a tap on the back and a lot of encouragement. I have learned from others and would love to pass it on to you.
I hope my story will inspire you and motivate you to take action. You know it is never too late.
photo credit: quinn.anya
Procrastination is the act of putting yourself away for doing things at a later stage, what you can do today or right now. We always find something better to do than to focus on important tasks or activities that we started to work on. This leads to doing many things at the same time and never really completing any tasks.
Everybody procrastinates to some extent, but this can become a real handicap to a certain extent in the professional and personal life. There is always a valid excuse of pushing things away for later. We have a tendency of pushing things that are difficult to do or which requires big efforts to accomplish certain tasks.
Let’s say for example, I decide to take up some physical exercise at home. Just when it comes to start some exercising, I suddenly realise that I have to clean up the room first, make some place to do some exercise, and finally that thought in mind pushed away the idea of getting to exercise. We always will find the best excuse to push things away when they are really needed to be done.
For your online business, it can create a real handicap. How many times I sat down to complete a task and then got distracted or those negative thoughts came into my mind, or the fear of not able to do it right and started doing other things that were really not worthy of the effort that I put into that task. One of my best examples is to look at emails or read what others have to say on the Internet.
This usually happens when I have to write an article for my blog. Sometimes I am short of ideas and that is what gets me to excuses. Yes, I know that is really not good but this is human nature and everyone falls into this trap.
In your personal and family life, it can be also very annoying. How many times I said that I have to pay the bills, I have small notes in front of me to say that I have to pay and yet I have not paid them on time. Then when the day arrives and you have no choice but to accomplish it, you, either make a mess out of it or you found that you are all stressed out.
Why do we Procrastinate and do you find yourself in the following instances
There could be many reasons for procrastination but some of the major reasons could be due to
- Unable to organise your ideas, actions and make proper decisions
- Finding the tasks difficult and you feel that it is not worth a try
- Pure laziness
- Fear of failure
- Not focused
- Fear of rejection
- Lack of confidence
- Don’t want to quit from that comfort zone
Yes these things also happen to me and I think every one of us has at some instance faced excuses of this kind. This can really be a drawback to your career, family life and your online business (if you are doing one).
Imagine your life with the diagram here below. Do you find yourself doing all those things that are marked on this flowchart. It would take me ages to get to the end of the sequence. Our life is not a machine but we need to model it around our work and family. There has to be a balance between the two.
photo credit: jean-louis zimmermann
I am a part time Internet Marketer and have to also maintain my pro life, student life and my family life. Having things organised can really help me get to where I want. So here are some ways I have organised myself and hope that it helps you do the same. I am not 100% perfect but have managed to make it work.
Ways To Stop Procrastination
- Take some time out and do a list of all the things that you have to do.
- Then, rank them according to its importance and urgency. You need to prioritise them according to their relevancy.
- Now estimate the time that is required to accomplish each task. Don’t underestimate the time that may be required for each task. Always keep in hand some extra time in case you can’t finish it on time. Depending on the task, I usually keep from 10mn to half a day.
- Depending on the duration of the task you can then classify them into categories. Say for example the task that will take lesser time can be done straight away and for longer task they may be divided into multiple smaller tasks (if possible)
- Make yourself a detailed timetable and set yourself real targets to accomplish them
- Distraction can also be your biggest enemy. Eliminate all sorts of distractions for e.g. television, radio, telephone, messengers. These will only lead to procrastination
Now it is nice to have a big list of things to do and all planned in advance but you don’t get out of that comfort zone and start putting them into action then it will never work. You will find yourself again procrastinating.
SO GET TO ACTION.
To Your Success,
Personal growth is the process of responding positively to change. It involves risk as you step from the known to the unknown.
All your growth will depend on your activity. Your strength and growth will come only through continuous effort and struggle. There will be no development without effort.
Trouble is the common denominator of living. It is the great equalizer of life. Your trials, your sorrows and your grief’s will develop you.
When good or bad fortune comes your way, you must give it meaning and transform it into something of value.
What happens to you is not as important as your reaction to what is happening.
You Have The Power If You Have The Desire!!
Your dreams will come true if you have the desire to pursue them. You must believe in yourself.
Know in your heart that you can do the job that you set out to do. You are never given a wish without also given the power to make it come true.
The achievement of your goal is assured the moment you commit yourself to it.
Everything is possible if you believe it’s possible. It’s your mind that sets your limits. What you envision you can do, you can do.
Start thinking of yourself as a success and success will follow. You can because you think you can. Success is a state of mind, you have the power if you have the desire.
Is starting a Online Business difficult? Not really. With a computer and high speed Internet access, the potential for anyone to make money online is virtually limitless. In fact it depends on what type of income you really want to generate. There are many who are just looking for some extra income and while others would like to make it a full time employment from the comfort of their home. What makes it difficult for someone to take that step forward and start? Here are some questions people have asked me and these should not put you down from starting a home based business.
1. Do I have to be a salesperson?
No not at all. The time has changed and on the internet sales pitch work very rarely now-a-days. The business on the internet has taken a different turn now. People will buy from you if they KNOW, LIKE and TRUST you. This follows a principle of attraction marketing. People are attracted towards you because you provide them value and they start liking and trusting you. You prove yourself to be a leader in your field and that is what in the long run generates a potential residual income for you. You have to think of your business as a long term investment.
2. What value can I provide or?
Well, I presume you do possess some qualities. Look into yourself. I am sure you have achieved professional experience, you must have some hobbies that you can share and communicate to your readers. There is a vast variety of opportunities on the internet and things that you can promote or sell. For example, you love gardening, don’t you think you could position yourself as a leader in the field of gardening and give them your valuable knowledge in gardening. There are a lot of products you can get from places like clickbank, paydotcom which you can be an affiliate and earn money from it.
There are many network marketing companies who provide valuable products to sell. Do some research on the internet and you may find the product which is of your taste and for which you will be able to bring value to your customers.
3. How do I promote?
That question is tricky but not hard to achieve. There are hundreds of ways of promoting your products or your website and attract visitors and make tons of money online. Some apply free traffic generations techniques like article marketing, social marketing, forum marketing…, which is a bit slower but very effective if you apply consistently while others use paid traffic generation techniques which can bring you rapid results. But if you are new to the internet then free methods can bring you good results and I would advice you to avoid the paid techniques as a mistake could be very costly for you.
4. How much time do I have to spend to earn money?
Honestly, it depends totally on your time availability. You have to find time for your online business. You could spend 2 hours a day and earn a decent income on the internet but to do that you need to follow a system and be consistent on a daily basis. Think of your business as a business and not as a hobby. Don’t fall into the get rich quick scams. I am a believer in the slow and steady wins the race and if you keep trying I am sure you can succeed.
5. I am not Internet Savvy?
Everybody is a beginner. It is not hard there are many companies out there who teach you how to market and brand yourself on the internet. If you want to really succeed on the internet, then you need to have some fundamental training and for that you have to spend some money. Personal development is very important. Imagine how many years would a doctor, an engineer or an accountant, have to study before they can practice their profession. Online business is the same, you don’t have to spend years but you do need some basic training to get yourself up and running.
If you’re new to being an entrepreneur, you probably need training. Look for a company that offers the tools and training you need in order to succeed. The type of training you receive can encompass everything from weekly conference calls or webinars (Internet-based seminars), to one-on-one coaching from your upline, to training manuals and other written materials.
When you’re sure you’re on the right road to success you don’t have to plan your journey too far ahead.
Don’t burden yourself with doubts and fears as to the obstacles that may bar your progress.
You don’t need to know all your answers in advance. Just have a clear idea of the goal you want to reach.
You can only take one step at a time. If you can muster up the courage to begin, you’ll find the courage to succeed. It’s the job you never start that always takes the longest to finish.
Eighty percent of success is in showing up.
Success Is The Result of Well Directed Energy
The first rule of success, and one that supersedes all others, is to have energy.
It’s important to know how to concentrate it. Focus your energy on important matters instead of frittering it away on meaningless things.
Nothing will add more power to your life then concentrating all your energies on a limited set of goals.
You must focus the full power of all you are on what you have a burning desire to achieve if you truly want to be successful.
Gather in your resources, rally all your faculties, marshal all your energies, focus all your capacities upon attaining your objectives. You must be single minded, and drive for the things you have decided upon.
The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.
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